Sitting With Your Discomfort.

TRIGGER WARNING: Heavy emotional content. How did you spend your weekend? Relaxing? Unwinding? Me too, on Sunday. But on Friday & Saturday I participated in a fantastic 2-day workshop called ASIST – Applied Suicide Intervention Skills Training. ASIST teaches people

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A Call to Hearts, Not Arms

Most men are emotionally disconnected and angry – and yet we hold all the big levers that can be used to solve climate change, poverty, social inequity, and war. This is NOT OK. – Israel Smith I’m writing to you today with

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What you most resist is what you most need

Have you ever wanted more out of life, but felt like there was something inside you holding you back? Have you ever found yourself in a quiet moment of reflection, and been utterly certain that there was something you were

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Slow down and rest.

Dear friend, Today, here, now, I invite you to Slow Down and Rest. Genuinely. As you read this, join me in taking a large, deep breath into your belly. Hold it for a moment, then exhale as slowly and long

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Can you sit in a quiet room, alone?

The world is very fast and loud, especially at this time of year, and especially as many regions/countries are “opening up” after pandemic lockdowns. It seems to me (on the news, at least) that many people are determined to cram

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There Are No Accidents

There are no accidents. Me popping into your inbox right this moment, you reading this post wherever you are, the weather where you live, that person who just phoned out of the blue… There. Are. No. Accidents. How do I

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The Power of Discomfort

I’ve been learning a lot this past 12 months – about myself, my habits, my patterns, and what lights me up inside. What it means to live my best Illuminating Life. But I’ve also been learning about the things that

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Beginnings and Endings.

It’s the time of year where many of us start reflecting—almost automatically—on the year that has been, and the year ahead. In other words, focusing on endings and beginnings. Many artists through time have commented on the coupled nature of

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Anything you love

“Anything you love comes around in another form.” – Rumi For weeks, now, I’ve been waking up around 4am. It happened again this morning, and since this is an unusual pattern for me, I started digging. I remembered a long

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Keep moving forward.

“Keep moving forward.” It’s week 3 of COVID-19 home-school. Our lives have been both simplified and complicated. Our business feels like it’s in stasis, yet we have rarely felt busier. I have been forced to slow down, yet also feel

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You have permission to do nothing

You have permission to do nothing. Pause, for a moment, and consider that. Truly let yourself feel the depth of that statement. You have permission. Permission to simply be, without doing anything. This morning I woke at 5:30am for some yoga.

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We are all exactly where we need to be.

Today’s quote is an abridged version of my wife’s favourite mantra: “The Universe delivers, and I am exactly where I need to be.” It came to me this morning, as I was doing yoga before dawn. As the light slowly

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You are not alone.

As you will probably know by now, if you’ve read a few of these IQs, I have a history of depression. It has touched my life at various points through my youth, studying at University, during my first career in

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Break the rules.

A dear friend of mine made a suggestion yesterday about rules. A quick snip of his text message: “…Re the IQs, I read something about setting rules. Just drop those and do them when you feel like it.” On reflection,

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If the path be beautiful

“If the path be beautiful, let us not ask where it leads.” – Anatole France Inspired by the fact that the sun’s reflection looks like a solid path stretching across the water, today’s IQ is about two things for me:

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Take the Leap

Boundary conditions. Interesting things happen on the edges. At the threshold between current and future, on the precipice of possibility. The cutting edge; or even nearer to peril, the bleeding edge. As we approach the boundary of what we know,

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Empower yourself.

“Empower Yourself.” I made an important discovery yesterday, with the help of my new psychologist. Yes, I’ve started seeing a psychologist. I figured that since I’ve got a history of depression, and since I’ve recently begun a new unplanned adventure

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Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal

“Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed.” – Wayne Dyer It took me such a long time to create this

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